It's time for another IWSG post...where did July go? Last month, I talked about taking a little time to review your New Year's Resolutions and either adjust your goals or renew your plan to meet them. This month, I'm looking at my "to-do" list...not the one filled with reminders of daily chores, but the one I keep posted on the bulletin board by my desk to remind me of the things that are really important - the things that will help me get where I want and need to be in both my personal & professional life.
To Do Daily:
- Count my blessings - I am alive, healthy, loved, and able to pursue my dream of writing. Who could ask for anything more? There is so much to be thankful for. I strive to count my blessings every day.
- Practice kindness - Such an easy thing to do that means so much & yet an easy thing to forget on a daily basis. A smile, a kind word, a thank you can go a long way toward making someone's day better. And it comes back to you ten-fold. Think about the impression you leave with others...it's important.
- Let go of what I can't control - Oh man! Now this one is a daily struggle for me. I'm a girl who likes things in order & one who feels the need to "fix things" even when they are beyond my control. Sound familiar? Sometimes you just have to know when to let go...of things & people. Negativity is a downer...it drains your creativity & messes with your head. There will always be non-believers who tell you that you can't do it - be it writing & publishing your book or whatever you dream of doing. You can't change their minds so don't let them mess with yours. I have to pray daily for the wisdom to know when to let things go that I can't control and move on - to remember what's important and productive for me. Learn from the negatives and if it doesn't work out, you can always "take another shot".
- Listen to my heart - There are times that I find my head telling me one thing and my heart telling me another. It's not always easy to figure out which one to follow. My heart tells me I'm a writer - pursue it, write it, put it out there - at the same time, negative thoughts creep into my head and say - you aren't good enough, you'll never finish your book, you'll never publish, no one cares, you're wasting your time. I need this daily visual reminder that I should listen to my heart and pursue my dreams. I am a writer.
- Be productive yet calm - I am a doer. I expect to accomplish a long list of tasks every day. When life interferes, as it often does, I have been known to freak out. Yes, it's true - I can lose my cool. Does it change anything? No. That's the bottom line... stressing out just makes me fall further behind thus generating more stress. In writing, I get discouraged & freak out when it's not working, when the muse doesn't show up, when my plot isn't developing. When I'm calm, cool, & collected, I'm more productive and things eventually fall into place. Patience is such a virtue - I pray for more of it everyday. Calmness + Patience = Productivity
- Just breathe - When life gets to be too much, just breathe. The same thing applies to writing. When my story is going nowhere, I have to stop and take a deep breath. Step away, clear my head, and assess the situation. Why has my writing stalled? What isn't working? What am I missing? What do I need to change? Often, all I need to do is take a break, clear my head, & breathe for it to start working again.
Do you have a daily "to-do" list that offers you inspiration? I think we can all benefit from a daily reminder that life is good, we are important, and we can achieve our dreams & goals. We are in control. Don't stress the small stuff. Don't worry about things you can't control. Let it all go & breathe. Remember: You have the power to say how your story will end - both in your book and your life!
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